Welcome to the March Carnival of Natural Parenting: Natural Parenting Top 10 Lists
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Hobo Mama and Code Name: Mama. This month our participants have shared Top 10 lists on a wide variety of aspects of attachment parenting and natural living. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
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I am often asked by moms-to-be what they can do to prepare for breastfeeding during pregnancy and what they can do during the early days and weeks to ensure that they are able to breastfeed. While breastfeeding is certainly natural, it is not always easy. Here are my top 10 tips to help breastfeeding get off to a good start:
- Attend a La Leche League (LLL) meeting (or two, or three or four!) during pregnancy – Going to a meeting can be a great way to meet other breastfeeding moms who live near you. You will hear what it’s really like in the early weeks, and you will learn from the experiences of other moms. Your group leaders can also be a great resource to you once your baby is born – either via email or phone.
- Buy a good baby care or breastfeeding book – Two great books are Dr. Sears’ The Baby Book or LLL’s Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. I found both books full of really useful information about breastfeeding specifically and about taking care of a baby in general. What I like best about both books is that they empower moms to trust their own mothering instincts and listen to their babies.
- Have minimal medical interventions during labour and delivery – Interventions such as c-sections, forceps or vacuum delivery, episiotimies, epidurals and IV lines can all lead to a more difficult recovery during the postnatal period for a mom. In addition, a natural birth reduces the likelihood that the baby will have to be separated from the mom after birth. This is very important, as immediate skin to skin contact for an hour after birth has been shown to increase the likelihood of successful breastfeeding.
- Hire a birth and/or post-partum doula – Having a doula at birth can enhance bonding between a mother and her baby. This can lead to more positive interactions between mom and baby and can assist in establishing a strong milk supply. A post natal doula can assist with things that need to get done around the house so that a mom can rest and focus on feeding her baby. Some doulas also have breastfeeding experience and can help if problems arise.
- Know where to go for help – After birth, have phone numbers handy for your LLL leaders or an IBCLC (International Board Certified Lactation Consultant).
- Keep your baby skin to skin for the first hour and delay the new born exam – Babies are quietly alert during the first hour after birth. Babies who are kept skin to skin for the first hour are likely to latch on, and likely to latch on well. They also are more likely to have stable and normal heart rates, blood pressure and temperatures. Studies have shown that babies who are kept skin to skin for the first hour are more likely to breastfeed exclusively longer.
- Keep visitors to a minimum during the first couple of weeks – Everyone wants to see a newborn, especially well-meaning family members. However, moms need their rest so that they can recover from birth and meet the demands of a new baby. It’s best to keep visitors to a minimum so mom can focus on two things: getting sleep and feeding the baby. If visitors do come over, let them bring over a meal or two, or help around the house.
- Keep your baby close during the early weeks and feed often – Feeding your baby on demand is crucial during the first few weeks to establish a strong milk supply. By keeping your baby close at all times, you can respond to early cues of hunger, rather than waiting for full out crying. You can’t feed your baby too often, and the more you breastfeed, the more milk you will make for your baby. C0-sleeping can be a great way to ensure your baby feeds often at night without disturbing your own sleep too much.
- Surround yourself with other moms that breastfeed – It’s great to have friends who are currently breastfeeding their babies, or who have breastfed in the past. They can be a wonderful source of information and encouragement. Sometimes just hearing how someone else is dealing with an obstacle or problem can provide you with enough inspiration to overcome your own difficulties, should they arise.
- Don’t give up! The first few months are hard. I think of the first three months as breastfeeding boot camp where you put in the hard work, and then after that you reap the benefits.
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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:
- Attachment Parenting in the NICU — Erica at ChildOrganics shares some strategies to help you parent naturally in some unnatural circumstances.
- 10 Reasons to Choose Baby Led Weaning — Luschka from Diary of a First Child shares ten reasons to choose Baby Led Weaning when it comes to solids.
- Choosing to Breastfeed — From selfishness to self-giving, CatholicMommy at Working to be Worthy lists reasons why breast is best for her and her family.
- Ten Things I Wish I Knew About Before Little Man — In this reflective post, The ArstyMama discusses ten things she wishes she knew more about before the birth of her son, Little Man.
- 10 Things That Helped Me Become a Natural Mama — The Accidental Natural Mama counts down ten things that helped her find her moderately crunchy inner mama self.
- Top 10 Reasons to Breastfeed Your Toddler — Extended breast-feeder Kate Wicker of Momopoly makes her own top 10 list for why she loves nursing her 2-year-old.
- Top 10 Tips on Authentic Grandparenting — Mamapoekie of Authentic Parenting offers a list of tips to make the grandparent-parent-child relationship flow smoothly.
- Top Ten “Dad” Things — Liam at In The Now talks about his favourite ways to spend time with his children.
- Top 10 Natural Strategies for Conception (aka How to Get Pregnant!) — Despite facing plenty of health issues, Jessica Claire at Crunchy-Chewy Mama found her way to two first-try pregnancies thanks to these natural strategies.
- Top Ten Reasons Why Home Birth Rocks — Lucy at Dreaming Aloud shares her passion for birthing at home – the natural place for natural birth.
- Top 10 reasons why cloth nappies are fun — Tat at Cloth Nappies Are Fun shows how using cloth nappies can brighten up your day.
- Top Ten Ways to Be Present With Family — Amy at Innate Wholeness shares how to make the most of parenting and family life through being present.
- Top 10 Things In My Arsenal of Kitchen Witchy Mama Tricks. — Joni Rae at Tales of A Kitchen Witch shares with us the simple things she would never want to be missing from her cupboards.
- Top 10 ways I’m not very good at natural parenting (and why I keep trying anyway) — Jenny at Babyfingers shares the ways she is imperfect as a natural parent, and why she embraces natural parenting anyway.
- Top 10 Ways to Know You Are a Natural Parent — So what makes us “natural parents,” anyway? A lighthearted look at the Top 10 Ways to Know You Are a Natural Parent by the editors and readers of Natural Parents Network.
- The Top 10 Things Every Natural Household (with children) Should Have — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro shares a list of the most common natural products and remedies she uses for health and cleaning.
- Top 10 books for raising loving, spiritual children — In her ‘food for the soul’ post, Mrs Green from Little Green Blog shares her favourite spiritual books. No matter what religion you practise, there’s something for everyone!
- Top 10 Things No One Told Me About Natural Parenting — Adrienne at Mommying My Way explains that the best things about natural parenting are things she never expected.
- Top 10 Flower Essences for Families — Kim of Nature Baby Bloggings lists her pick of the top ten flower essence which can help ease families through the ups and downs of life.
- My Top Ten Parenting Tools — Amyables at Toddler In Tow names the top ten tools that have been helpful to her while learning to parent respectfully and successfully.
- Ten Ways Families Can Enjoy Nature (for free!) — Spring is nearly in the air, and Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction is dreaming of the fun and frugal ways that her family is going to get out and enjoy nature this summer.
- 10 Reasons We Unschool — Patti at Jazzy Mama explains why unschooling is the right choice for her family.
- Must Read: Natural Parenting Top Ten — Amy at Anktangle wants you to do a little reading! She shares her top ten favorite books to help parents prepare for pregnancy, birth, and parenting.
- Top 10 Breastfeeding Misconceptions — Sheila at A Gift Universe examines ten reasons women give for why they didn’t breastfeed as long as they wanted, and shows how these obstacles can be overcome.
- Ten Reasons to Plan a Home Birth — Since a home birth can be an incredibly empowering experience, Leslie at Lights and Letters outlines ten reasons why you should plan to have your baby at home.
- Top Ten Books for Birth, Breastfeeding and Parenting — Megan at Just Me(gan) writes about the ten books that have helped her the most in her natural parenting journey.
- A Top Ten Letter To Me… — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment writes herself a letter of reflections and bits of wisdom she would have liked to know as a new mama.
- Top Ten Mama Necessities Money Can’t Buy — Buying baby gear is fun, but Emily at Crunchy(ish) Mama knows real parenting must-haves can’t be bought in stores (or even on Amazon).
- Top 10 Books for a Natural Mum — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine talks about her Top 10 Books for a Natural Mum.
- Ten Great Spring Activities To Do With Preschoolers — Kellie at Our Mindful Life and her family have come up with a great list of activities to do together this spring.
- 10 Ways to Reuse Yogurt Containers — Acacia at Fingerpaint & Superheroes keeps the stacks of yogurt containers out of her recycling bin by reusing them in both practical and creative ways.
- Top Ten Ways To Have a Harmonious Home — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares her natural parenting-inspired methods for maintaining a harmonious daily life with her toddler.
- 10 Natural Baby Items I Love — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama shares product ideas to support your natural parenting.
- The Pandas’ Top Five Crunch-osophies — Top five crunchy philosophies, as employed at the Panda Residence by Ana at Pandamoly.
- Top 10 Reasons to Leave Your Son Intact — Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children has shared 10 reasons why you should leave your newborn son intact.
- Ten things everyone should know about unassisted homebirth — Olivia at Write About Birth shares practical tips for women considering an unassisted homebirth and debunks some common myths
- 10 Most Popular Ways To Treat Cloth Diaper Stains — Chante at My Natural Motherhood Journey gives ten easy tips to make your diapers like new.
- 10 Lessons in 1 Year — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter shares 10 parenting lessons that she has learned throughout her first year of motherhood.
- Top 10 Ways to Get Breastfeeding Off To a Good Start — Sheryl at Little Snowflakes shares 10 effective ways to ensure breastfeeding gets off to a good start.
- Top 10 Ways to Avoid a Time-Out — If you are uncomfortable using time-outs in an attempt to control your child’s behavior, try one of these gentler alternatives. Dionna at Code Name: Mama shares her Top 10 Ways to Avoid a Time-Out.
- My Top 10 Parenting Scriptures — Dulce de leche is learning to integrate faith and parenting. Whether it is breastfeeding, babywearing, comforting her children, or gentle discipline, she finds that the Bible has beautiful passages to encourage her on her journey.
- Natural Cleaning Ideas – Top 10 — Laura at Laura’s Blog lists the ways she keeps her house clean and clear of chemicals.
- My Top Ten (plus two) Life Altering and Growth Inspiring Books — A top ten list of books from MJ at Wander Wonder Discover that changed her life as an individual, a parent, and an earth dweller.
- Top 10 Ways to Use Natural Parenting for Children with Special Needs — Danielle at Mommy Makes Cents feeds the needs of her family and special needs child through the use of Natural Parenting.
- Ten Fundamentals — Seonaid at The Practical Dilettante gets philosophical with a list of the fundamentals that drive her natural parenting.
- 10 reasons why I chose breast over bottles — Becky at Old New Legacy writes a quick list of why she chose breast over bottles.
- Top Ten Natural Tools for the Work of Play — Lori at Beneath the Rowan Tree offers insight into 10 natural toys that will span the early years (and save you money).
- 10 differences between pregnancy and parenting in Japan and the US — Megan at Ichigo Means Strawberry gives her impressions about differences in pregnancy and parenting in Japan and the US.
- Natural Parenting Benny & Bex Style — Pecky at Benny and Bex explains why Natural Parenting principles work best for her boys.
- Top 10 Reasons to Co-Sleep — 10 practical, emotional, and completely selfish reasons to co-sleep and share a family bed from Lily, aka Witch Mom.
- My Top Ten New Mommy Moments — Melissa at The New Mommy Files recounts the ten most memorable moments of her daughter’s first year.
- Top Ten Things Every Breastfeeding Mother Needs to Know — Kristen at Adventures in Mommyhood believes knowledge is power and wants all moms to be well informed.
- Top 10 Nursing Positions / Situations — Momma Jorje uses her 5½ years of nursing experience to share her Top 10 Nursing Positions/Situations. She includes some adorable photos of her youngest daughter at the breast.
- Ten Top Ways to Connect Kids with Nature — Terri from Child at the Nature Isle offers 10 ways to immerse ourselves in the natural world and develop a love affair with the Earth.
- Top 10 Slacker Ways to Natural Parent — Guavalicious is happy to show you how to parent naturally the slacker way.
- Simply what it looks like — Andrea!!! from Ella-Bean & Co. offers a glimpse into natural parenting through the eyes of mama and babe.
- Top Ten Reasons Why Natural Parenting Dads Are So Attractive — Nada at miniMOMist sure digs her husband, but it’s not just his good looks — it’s his parenting!
- 10 Family Systems and Routines That Work for Us — See what routines, organizational systems, and parenting approaches work for Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings to help avoid conflict and maintain sanity in a family with three young children.
- Top 10 reasons to choose midwifery care — Lauren at Hobo Mama lists the features that drew her to midwives’ care for pregnancy and birth.
- 10 Ways to Cloth Diaper on a Budget — Michelle at The Parent Vortex shares her best thrifty cloth diapering tips.
- Ten Reasons it Felt Sew Good To Make My Own Play Food — Brittany at Mama’s Felt Cafe lists her 10 (OK, 11) favorite reasons to grab a needle and start sewing your own felt play toys.
- Top10 Ways to Spark Interest, Learn, and Have Fun With Everyday Tasks! — Bethy at Bounce Me to the Moon gives you her top 10 ways of incorporating fun and lessons into everyday tasks and chores.
- Postpartum Gift Ideas — Alicia at I Found My Feet suggests a top 10 list of gifts for mother’s after giving birth.
- My Top Ten Shows Worthy Of Screen Time — Tree at Mom Grooves shares her top ten list of shows that she believes are positive, educational, kind, joyful, and a nice way to share some downtime with your children.
- The Top 10 Ways to Succeed as an Working Attachment Parent — That Mama Gretchen shares tried and true ways to succeed with attachment parenting even when working away from home during the day.
- Top Ten Books for Natural Parenting — Pregnancy, herbs, cooking, and healthcare the ten books Asha at Meta Mom the most.
- Preparing for a Hospital VBAC: My Top 10 — Thomasin at Propson Palingenesis shares 10 ways she’s preparing for her upcoming hospital VBAC.
- Top Ten New Mom Survival Tools — Wolfmother shares her most beloved motherhood survival tools at Fabulous Mama Chronicles.
- Top 10 Montessori Principles for Natural Learning — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now gives her top 10 list of Montessori principles parents can use to encourage their children s natural learning.
- Going Granola — Tashmica from The Mother Flippin’ Blog describes the 10 ways that natural parenting sneaked up on her. She never expected to go all granola on the world.
- Step Away From the Amazon List — Stefanie at Very, Very Fine wishes she hadn’t bought so much useless stuff.
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March 8, 2011 at 2:33 pm
I wish I would have had this nice, concise list when I started breastfeeding! It certainly wasn’t easy, but with the support of some great friends, we’re working on a 7-month-strong breastfeeding bond, and it feels great! I will definitely be forwarding this list on to my preggo friends in search of information : )
Happy Carnival!
March 8, 2011 at 10:14 pm
Thank you! Yay to 7 months! What a great gift you’ve given your little one!
March 8, 2011 at 3:28 pm
LLL saved my breastfeeding career when I had trouble with my first. I faced all the initial hurdles you talked about, having a traumatic, emergency c-section and being separated from my baby for a period of time. LLL saved me when we couldn’t get a good latch and things seemed hopeless. You’ve got an awesome list here – lots of future mamas would benefit greatly by reading this one 🙂
March 8, 2011 at 10:15 pm
As a LLL leader, it is so wonderful to hear that LLL helped you! Thank you for sharing your experience.
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March 8, 2011 at 3:45 pm
Great list! I will second #7 — if we’d had visitors those first couple weeks, I would not have been able to be as topless as I needed to be to get started breastfeeding! And having my wise and wonderful midwife/lactation consultant come visit us postpartum and reassure us that everything was fine was such a boost after our hospital experience was so obnoxious.
March 8, 2011 at 10:18 pm
I too was topless a lot during the first few weeks while we were learning to breastfeed!
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March 8, 2011 at 4:42 pm
I agree, especially wiht #7. I always felt so self-conscious when visitors were around, and would usually leave the room (didn’t NIP until 2 months). And I definitely think the doula is a good idea. I’ve thought about becoming a post-partum doula, and I’ve heard it’s a good idea for moms with other children too.
March 8, 2011 at 10:16 pm
Yes – I think the lifestyle of a post-partum doula is easier than a birth doula if you have little kids. With a birth doula you are always on call and can be out of the house for lengthy periods of time.
And I agree – it can be hard to get used to nursing in public with the first baby. Now that I’m on to my second, I nurse anywhere and everywhere! Lol!
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March 8, 2011 at 5:58 pm
@Lauren — We had visitors, but also had a sign taped to the front door: “Mom and Peter are both learning how to breastfeed. If you can’t handle the sight of a full breast, visit later!”
@Sheryl — Great advice! I’ve bookmarked this to pass along to friends who are planning to breastfeed.
March 8, 2011 at 7:31 pm
I love that sign! I NEED that sign! 🙂
March 8, 2011 at 10:18 pm
I love the sign too! And thanks!!
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March 8, 2011 at 11:33 pm
Love this list! I think we’ve got a really similar mindset in starting off breastfeeding )I wrote a post just a bit ago that hits a lot of the same points). Major love for the LLL inclusion! LLL has had a major impact of my breastfeeding and mothering, and I love seeing all the good that can come from mother-to-mother support.
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March 9, 2011 at 11:20 am
Great list! I totally agree, especially with preparing ahead of time by reading, attending LLL meetings, and having researching resources (lactation consultants in particular) so that you have a number to call at a moments notice if problems arise. Having support and a plan helped me SO much through my breastfeeding challenges!
March 21, 2011 at 4:25 pm
Having support and a plan are so important – helped me a lot too!
March 9, 2011 at 12:52 pm
Great list!
I wish I had a pump for my stalled milk after my c/s but am so glad I’d attended a meeting at a breastfeeding center and got assistance on day 3. (We nursed until age 3 after 2 days with a little formula – never give up!) But, with baby #2 (an HBAC), my milk came in right away, and the pump is dusty after 7 mos! 🙂
I’d also add to make sure your diet is low-sugar and to keep lots of probiotic foods and/or supplements on hand to keep up good gut flora and avoid yeast!
March 21, 2011 at 4:24 pm
Good tips! Thrush and yeast are a big pain…good idea to eat healthy and try to avoid it right from the start.
March 9, 2011 at 9:34 pm
Such wonderful, concise pointers. They should be kept as a reminder list for every expectant mother. #5 was SO important for me – my LC was my angel for the first 5 days of Kieran’s life, and several other LLL leaders and LC’s were helpful after that!
March 21, 2011 at 4:23 pm
My LC was also my angel and life saver! I wouldn’t have been able to bf Dylan without her!
March 10, 2011 at 9:36 am
I agree with the others – a great list full of really good advise! I think the first born is always harder to initially feed due to concerns of ‘are they getting enough’ etc…by the second I had mastered it 🙂 I would have to add that breastfeeding makes you very hungry and thirsty – it is so important to eat a balanced diet (and remember breastfeeding burns so many calories) and drink plenty of water to keep hydrated.
March 21, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Good tips – I am always thirsty these days and try to have a glass of water handy each time I sit down to nurse!
March 16, 2011 at 1:10 am
I struggled a lot with bfing my son. It tuns out he was tongue tied and I have Renauds Syndrome. I am trying to learn about how to be successful this time around. I have a doula for my birth and will have one after for help at home, as well as help with nursing.
I was able to nurse for 4 to 6 months with my son… But it was so increadably painful. I had a LC and she tried to help but I ended up needing to pump most of the milk. It was too stressful and painful and not good for me or my son to go through the drama of a nursing session if I was in tears each time. So I pumped, did more skin to skin time while feeding him my milk in a bottle, and this worked until I dried up. I drank the tea and took fenugreek and dried up by 6 months. 😦
I am eager to try again this time around. I am optomistic now that I am aware of my own medical issues. I will take B 12 and try using heat. I will also assess my daughters tongue for any issues.
I need to find a LLL group near me and go.
Can I bring my toddler? Even if he doesn’t BF?
March 21, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Sounds like you went through a lot and really did all that you could so that you could breastfeed your son!
I hope things go a lot more smoothly for you the second time around. Sounds like you are already doing a lot to prepare.
You definitely can bring your toddler to a LLL mtg, whether he is nursing or not! I hope that you enjoy the meetings!!
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